My story

This is me when I was 36 weeks pregnant with my 3rd son. Don’t hate. I look awesome.

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Janie Jones Photography

My name is Priscilla Hartman Hedlin. I must get my maiden name in there for anyone that doesn’t know me now. I live in Austin. Well, actually a suburb of Austin, called Pflugerville. The P is silent. I grew up in Shiner. Yes, where they make the beer and I lived in Vidor for a short amount of time. Not proud of the town but made some pretty amazing friends in the short time I was there.

I’ve been trying to rework this page for a while now so my readers could really get to know me, but that isn’t really easy. There is far to much to tell you and I don’t always want to overload The Wheelchair Mommy with stuff about me. I want this to be a keepsake for my boys and I haven’t been very good at posting about them lately.

I suppose when they are 30, they would much rather read about me anyways, but I still want to document their childhood. Just in case I don’t remember, ya know?!

As I began writing this I was planning to do a quick bullet point list of stuff about me. It’s the easy way out. Right? Then a thought occurred to me. I frequently have NO idea what to blog about. I can make each bullet point a blog post. Of course, not all at once, but maybe within the next year?!

Do not proceed unless you have at least 2 hours to dive in and read all the goodies. I know you will. I’m awesome like that. Many of the bullet points already have awesome blog posts links attached to them.

If you just want to see my intro vlog. It’s mostly short. A little loud. Super sweet.

and until I get the entire story typed out, here is the short version:

So many of you don’t know my
entire story. I was paralyzed in a car
wreck in 1999. I was 18 and just started college. The person driving was sober but my ex-sister-in-law was drunk and grabbed the wheel. We were going around a curve and another car was coming. I was thrown out. Nope. No seat belt. I was in the backseat. Not many adults wear one in the backseat, do they?! I never lost
consciousness and spent about 5 weeks in the hospital. That included a really long (12-15 hour) surgery to stabilize my spine. As soon as they let me, I was ready to get into therapy and learn what I had to so I could get on with my life. One thing I’ve said since the beginning is I am changed but still the same. To this day my attitude is positive and I don’t let the injury or the scars get me down. I still do EVERYTHING I want to do I¦just do it sitting down. I have a great life and couldn’t imagine being any happier. People are always asking me how I can be so positive and I tell them it’s because I want to. I dont get feeling sorry for myself. What good does that do me? No, thank you. I want to live my life and enjoy it and no one is going to keep me from doing that, most of all myself. So now you know. I have all kinds of scars on my body as a constant reminder of 9-12-99, but sometimes I still forget. I’ll be going about my business and forget I am actually sitting until I try to reach something high up or far away. It’s quite funny, really. Flame me if you want but I also get the biggest kick out of gimp humor.

Now all my dreams have come. Despite paralysis, I am a mommy!!!

 



Comments

  1. Yasaman says

    May I ask why your pregnancy is considered high risk? I’m a c7 quad and I was born in 1981 too.. we are trying for a baby and I’m super scared ..lol..my dream is to have three kids..is it impossible considering my age?

    • Priscilla says

      My 3rd pregnancy was the only one that was high risk. I had a placental abrupt ion with #2 so we wanted to take extra care. It had absolutely nothing to do with age or injury. :)

  2. Jessica says

    I commented earlier on FAQs, and I love that you put, “I still do everything i want to, I just do it sitting down..” when some distant friends got wind of my other friends paralsys, they asked me, “how will he go to the bathroom”? or “he lives alone, how is he going to care for himself”? I was appalled (not really, I expected those questions, they were “eye rollers”) and i simply said “He’ll probably do everyhting the same, just chilling in his chair, if hes okay with it, why cant everyone else”. So thank you! I am so glad someone else put it out there as well!

  3. says

    I love that you said you still do everything you want to do, you just do it sitting down. I absolutely LOVE your attitude. I hope people who are new to paralysis discover your blog and feel relieved that others are out there still continuing on with their lives. You are such an inspiration.
    Ashlee´s last blog post ..The Time I Forgot The Diaper Bag

  4. Erin says

    I’m just reading your stories and really feeling like smacking your ex-friend but I guess that would not be so nice. You have been through so much. It’s people like you that make the world go round! Keep it up and big hugs to you and your family!

  5. says

    Love this site. I am a C6/7 incomplete and am 16 weeks along. We are very similar in that our paralysis has not stopped us from living the life we have wanted to live. In fact, I think it has fueled me to prove people wrong about paralysis.

    Looking forward to reading in the future. Also feel free to check out my blog also. carrieLsunday.com
    Carrie Sunday´s last blog post ..another from the white buffalo.

  6. says

    I love your answers. Your bluntness, your everything. Reminded me of a while ago. I was in a wheelchair, the doctors had told me and my parents I’d never walk again. I was sitting in said “thing” in the zoo, watching monkeys eat. Some older couple walked past me, stopped behind me, and the wife whispered, “Look, a shame, isn’t it, she looks so smart and yet is so disabled. The poor thing, having to sit in that thing!”
    I turned around in my thing and said, “Don’t worry, it’s okay. The thing actually helps me get around.”
    She blushed, again turned to her husband and said, “Well, how was I supposed to know she can speak!”

    Honestly, Priscilla, you are an inspiration; I used to live in San Antonio and I still LOVE Shiner. I wish we’d met in person when I was still “over there”!

    • Priscilla says

      Hi Kim! Thank you for reaching out. I don’t think anyone ever suspected me of not being able to speak but wowzers. It would have been great to meet you! :)

      • says

        I am not even sure why she would’ve thought that just because of the wheels, but hey… people do think strange things, don’t they.
        Well, whenever I am in San Antonio, I’ll make sure to announce the visit first and maybe we can meet in San Marco’s :)

  7. says

    I have tears in my eyes reading through this. I am pregnant with our first child and found out just eight days into being paralyzed from the neck down from a rare neuro illness. Although I am recovering, I still have bouts of it and have heard some pretty terrible remarks about how I could possible care for a child if I cannot walk (crazy, huh?!). Reading through your blog has put such hope that if I do have other bouts, it will still be okay (and I can still be a MOM!). From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
    Lindsey @ DishingUpHope´s last blog post ..Packing for a Hospital Stay

  8. says

    I too use a chair. But I’ve gone on to do beautiful things. I’m a teacher with a PhD. Oh the places these wheels have taken me…

    Ps. I see your photo was taken by Janie Jones. She was a photog friend of mine and lived near me in KS! Great lady!

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