{"id":4221,"date":"2011-11-16T10:05:32","date_gmt":"2011-11-16T16:05:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wheelchairmommy.com\/?p=4221"},"modified":"2011-11-16T10:05:32","modified_gmt":"2011-11-16T16:05:32","slug":"defiance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.wheelchairmommy.com\/closed\/2011\/defiance\/","title":{"rendered":"Defiance"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve had this rule. I’d only blog about the good stuff.<\/p>\n

It’s what matters.<\/p>\n

It’s what I want to remember.<\/p>\n

No one wants to know about my struggles.<\/p>\n

But. . \u00a0.<\/p>\n

This is supposed to be a keepsake. . . A place to look back and laugh.<\/p>\n

Will has always been a good kid. He still is, but we are struggling with him right now.<\/p>\n

It’s been going on for about 3 years now. It started when we moved and he started school.<\/p>\n

He’s smart. REALLY smart and he knows it.<\/p>\n

He’s also easily influenced. He hasn’t always had the best influence at school.<\/p>\n

He used to be the SWEETEST, most gentle and loving little boy.<\/p>\n

Now?<\/p>\n

He’s still all of those things. Sometimes.<\/p>\n

The rest of the time?<\/p>\n

He’s so difficult. It’s not always easy to be around him.<\/p>\n

That makes my heart hurt. So much.<\/p>\n

He’s an angel in school but he’s admitted he’s bored. Somehow he controls himself because he doesn’t get in trouble there.<\/p>\n

Just at home.<\/p>\n

At least we did something right. Right?<\/p>\n

Last year he was nominated for GT. For whatever reason he wasn’t “accepted”.<\/p>\n

We decided not to let him be nominated this year because if you are denied two years in a row you can’t be nominated again the next year.<\/p>\n

He can do double digit math in his head and reads on a much higher reading level. He has a memory like an elephant. He remembers tiny details of conversations we had YEARS ago and uses them against us.<\/p>\n

We’ve thought about having his IQ tested by a psychologist and just bypassing the schools tests.<\/p>\n

I’ve considered homeschool so we can skip all the boring stuff and jump into new stuff.<\/p>\n

But …..<\/p>\n

He doesn’t listen when I try and teach him. He tells me it’s not how his teacher does it or this or that.<\/p>\n

I couldn’t do it. Not right now.<\/p>\n

I don’t think Private school would be any better.<\/p>\n

I don’t really want him jumping ahead of all the kids he’s already made friends with, so I’ve avoided having him tested to move up a grade.<\/p>\n

He has lots of friends. He’s very well liked by the other kids. So, that hasn’t been a problem.<\/p>\n

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I suppose some of what we are dealing with is normal. It’s just what almost 7 year olds do, but he’s been doing it since he was 4.<\/p>\n

Lucas is about to be 4. I’m not sure I can handle it if Lucas develops a personality as strong as Will’s.<\/p>\n

He’s SO good around other people. He’s the model of perfection.<\/p>\n

No one would ever know.<\/p>\n

No form of discipline works.<\/p>\n

Not spanking.<\/p>\n

Not time out.<\/p>\n

Not grounding. (taking away video games\/TV)<\/p>\n

The one thing that does work?<\/p>\n

Threatening to tell others. (teachers)<\/p>\n

He’s so worried about what they will think but couldn’t care less what WE think.<\/p>\n

He thinks we should show HIM respect and tells us we are being rude when we only try to discipline him.<\/p>\n

God, I hate writing this but I need to get it out. I need to share it.<\/p>\n

Everyday I take a deep breath and hope it will be a good day.<\/p>\n

That he will come home in a good mood.<\/p>\n

He really is a good kid.<\/p>\n

He doesn’t hurt people.<\/p>\n

He rarely lies (except here and there about stuff he does or doesn’t do with or to his brother, you know innocent kid stuff).<\/p>\n

It breaks my heart when he thinks he’s BAD because he gets in trouble. He says it. Not us. We tell him otherwise. We’ve NEVER told him he was a bad kid so I don’t know where he even heard that.<\/p>\n

There is a part of me that doesn’t want to remember this “phase” but I know I will.<\/p>\n

I want to hope that writing it down will help him if his kids do the same thing.<\/p>\n

Maybe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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